“He who is not friendly toward a good guest will never have one.” — Chinese Wisdom
(Inscrutable? Or are we not allowed to use that word to describe any person of the Asian persuasion? I remember being married to my beautiful Oriental wife, for many many years, and all of a sudden I woke up to an Asian wife! To this day, she still thinks it’s a little more than ridiculous, but there’s no arguing with the MPCP – the Militant Politically Correct Police. I thought it was a nice twist using Wisdom instead of Proverb. Maybe we’ll see this for other nationalities! Be well and do good, friends.) — YUR
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I resist referring to Chinses, Japanese, Vietnamese people, etc, as “Asian”. It sounds so pedestrian.
People in India, Pakistan, Afghanistan, etc, are also Asian, but we don’t refer to them as such.
I like the word “Oriental”. It has a more romantic ambiance.
Am I wrong ?
You’ll get no argument from me, lwc! Nor from my lovely Filipina wife. There is a distinct difference between Indians, Pakistanis, and what I always considered “Orientals”. “Oriental” always conjured up exoticism and mystery when I was younger. — YUR
UR…..;
Not to get personal, but your Wife may find this interesting??*…In the 10 yrs.I sailed for the US Navy on their ships as a member of the Defense Dept. I spent about 7 months at the Subic Bay docks for TS stuff in COMMS. My driver/adviser/body guard & trusted friend Joe
set me up with a Filipinas lady companion (diners, movies, ect….^*) She and Joe also set me up with some gambling ventures!! $(My guy Joe was one of the toughest {in various venues} I ever ment Anywere!!*
In 40 yrs (still going) my Filipina lady was the ONLY time I fell in love while even just going steady with another girl/lady.
UR, Would you ask your wife if it is really possible for a Man to actually Love two women at the same time???{{THX}}>>>>In her opinion…
This next please believe am not bragging!!! $
On these Navy Ships I’d average approx….$1,500 per/month in gambling tax free $$$$$ In late 1915. – early 1916 the exchange rate was around 48 Pesos – 1 $. Without her asking, >>It still hurts to say or write her name << I gave her $1,000 USA. – Approx. 48,000 Pesos. She Was Not a Con!!!×
About a year before I met her she divorced this scum – bag Japanese rich dude ((No stories but Bad News)) Briefly: Went back to Japan and never helped her 2 young, great little kids.
Helping her a little (didn't even have a cell Ph.¿¿) was an Honor & delight for me☆♡
This one's for your wife; If a Filipina lady wants
only v vyou the competition better be forewarned. ……These Ladies can be flat out tough, to the Max, roughest I' ve seen….and still be Soooo sweet☆☆☆♡♡♡♡♡+
THX, I needed that***!!!
LOL,…..I was only of 100 yrs {{>told you this Filipina women still has my head messed – up¿◇
[Or is it (off)???●♡
It’s a little difficult for me to follow your timeline, Ken. But, I will try to address/answer some of your points/questions.
1. Regarding Subic Bay: Our Naval base there was decommissioned in 1992, but it was an ongoing concern for the U.S. – off and on – for about 100 years. For my wife’s first 25 years of her life it was there, but it was basically off limits to proper/nice Catholic school girls, from Manila, about 96 miles away. The women you might have met there were mainly “professional” girls of varying grade/scale. Asking a nice Filipina if she was from Subic Bay is like inviting the WRATH of God! On that subject they have a ZERO sense humor, brother. You pal, Joe, as trusty as he might have been, was one of many opportunists there to make a buck off U.S. service personnel.
2. Her opinion on if a man can love two women at the same time would be: not if he wants to keep his testicles! Filipinas fully understand that the macho culture – inherited from their Spanish occupiers of over 330 years – is still very prevalent today. The men there think they HAVE TO have a #2 (or more) in order to actually be a “man”. The women/wives obviously do not like it, but they tolerate it, and most still have their ways of wielding a certain amount of control over their husbands. My wife has lived here nearly twice as long as she lived in R.P., so the tolerant aspect has most definitely fallen by the wayside.
Helping out your lady friend was a very decent thing for you to do, Ken. I’m relatively sure she will always think kindly of you. And yes, traditional Filipinas can be very loving and sweet. Even subservient. But, you do not want to cross them! They have the ability to be quite vindictive, and they surely have their ways.
I’m happy to provide you with a forum to travel down memory lane. Take care. — YUR
Thanks for your understanding, unc.
It occurs to me that it’s the “exoticism” and “mystery” that American-born Asians want to get away from. But, it’s the difference that make people interesting in the first place. During childhood I was anxious to grow up, join the military, so I could go aboard ship, and sail around the world, especially Asia. I believed it would be nothing like what I knew form home. I was right.
But, I get it; some people don’t want to be different; they want to blend in and be like everybody else.
If everybody was like me, I would get bored and forget who I was.
Ken M,
I hope you got that off your chest.
The Philippines was an interesting place to behold. On several trips there, my Marine squadron would leave the ship and stay there weeks at a time for training.
I wasn’t as world-savvy at the time as some of my shipmates. My innocence told me told me there were some places and situations I should leave alone for the moment. I was there long enough to venture out more.
Eventually, I learned to bypassed the bars next to the base where only the GIs hung-out. Instead, I accumulated enough local friends to leave the bars, the city, and venture out into the villages and countryside and meet people at home.
Meeting people who were different from me, my family, my neighborhood, and my life, taught me things about people in general that I hadn’t considered before leaving home. It especially taught me lessons about women.
I grew up in a family of smart, bossy women. Living in the Third World taught me that women “run” the world. That may not be official doctrine, but pay attention to any healthy family. Who’s actually in charge ?