“The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.” — Unknown
(It definitely should flow in this order though. A good apology should contain some kind of explanation for the offending words or actions. This allows the hurt one to forgive. Then, with the passage of a little time, both can forget, and get on with the relationship. Be well and do well, friends.) — YUR
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I think something important is missing from apologies.
I say apologies only work for accidents. For offenses/actions done on purpose, an apology is meaningless.
I disagree, lwc. If the offender can sufficiently explain what spurred him/her to the offense, and the explanation is not a further offense, then I think the apology has meaning and can be accepted. Especially in cases of envy and jealousy, exacerbated by mounting stress and anxieties. — YUR
When you have about 19 minutes, listen to this episode from Ira Glass’ “This American Life”.
Then we’ll see if your current opinion persists ?
It’s my understanding that forgiveness doesn’t have to be earned, but it does have to be genuine.
“An innocent man forgives the cop who framed him.”
You Have the Right to Remain Angry
by Lilly Sullivan
The TV news stories told it as heartwarming tale of reconciliation from small-town America: a black man who was framed by a white cop decides to forgive him. But those stories left out a few things. Producer Lilly Sullivan looked into it. (18 minutes)
http://www.thisamericanlife.org/650/change-you-can-maybe-believe-in
People do not apologize. They often choose to defame the person they have hurt.
This doesn’t effect my opinion, lwc. I saw the one that was on CBS Sunday Morning. I thought it was a little sketchy, as the ex-cop didn’t explain himself very well. Not surprised to find he screwed others as well. I’d say there are things that CAN be apologized for, and things that an apology just won’t cut! It’s hard to forgive someone who falsely put you in prison, and stole years of your life from you. For things like this I wouldn’t expect forgiveness. The apology/explanation would still be appreciated, but certain intentional things are pretty unforgivable. — YUR
Ooh! Sounds personal, Micheline. I agree though. Some people do not apologize. They often choose to make things even worse for the aggrieved. People don’t always follow life’s scripts. — YUR